SELFISHNESS 101

I was again at my worse when I started looking for interesting things to read over the internet... while going through some topics, i spotted this one list of tips on how to overcome a selfish relationship... so i started reading it and thought of stuff to share to everyone. but then i thought, if there were hundreds, if not, thousands of tips on how to have the most perfect relationship with your significant other, there must be tips on how to ruin a successful relationship as well or something like that... and so my topic for tonight's blog was born: HOW TO BE SELFISH IN A RELATIONSHIP?

first, let us define what is selfishness? According to http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/selfishness, selfishness is defined as being concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others or arising from concern with one's own welfare or advantage in disregard of others. 

now, how does selfishness affect a relationship? with all the fights that i had with Brian, if you would look and analyze it, all of them started with selfishness. either one was too focused with oneself and gratifying his or my need above everything else. sometimes, it involves pleasing ones desires over the other. but what i could say the most common issue would be, one was too focused on being right, no matter how much it hurts the other whatever the cost may be.

one could not have a smooth marriage, long-lasting friendship or an ideal relationship if selfishness exists within. take note that selfishness would immediately ruin your feelings of love, adoration or affection and nothing good ever comes from being selfish. it is a guarantee that you're headed to a path of loneliness, misery and despair if you'd ever want to become SELFISH towards your significant other.

now that I've provided you with all of the warnings that I could offer, let's now proceed to the main point of my blog: HOW CAN YOU APPLY SELFISHNESS INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

remember, selfishness focuses only on one's self and does not add the value to others. for example, your significant other has had trouble with sleeping for a very long time and sleep is a necessity and a great task for him/her to accomplish. then, for the first time in weeks, you see him/her sleeping soundly and peacefully but your miserable self can't somehow manage to do the same thing. how, then, will you apply SELFISHNESS in this situation? simple! start throwing stuff around and bang things on the floor, wall, or even the ceiling just to get his/her attention. if he/she wakes up and asks why you are doing that, simply yell at him/her, "i can't sleep!!!" great! for sure you've successfully achieved being an @$$|-|ö£ê. kudos to you!

another thing to take note about selfishness is that if you wanna be selfish towards him/her, you'd want to focus the services towards you and not the other way around. let's say both of you came of from work and nothing's prepared for dinner yet. you check the fridge only to find out a ruined bottle of milk, a spoiled box of cheese and a dead fly on top of a rotten tomato (sorry for ruining your appetite). what to do? ask the other to go to the market, buy food, cook it and serve it to you. after that, you eat and leave all of the dishes for him/her to finish. again, great job!!! definitely, you're starting to get a hang of it.

want more? okay...

when a person is selfish, one must remember that selfishness doesn't mind the consequences of his/her behavior. if you're angry, let it out... say mean stuff, do crazy things, curse, yell and don't mind whether the kids' eyes on you or worse take it out on them... just think, "hey, this is me and i don't care what you feel or think. as long as i could do what i want whenever i want, that's fine. if you can't accept me and my behavior, you could go two ways, stay with me and learn to accept and adjust with my qualities or feel free to leave." like what Beyoncè said on her song, "IRREPLACEABLE", ♫♪ I could have another you in a minute. Matter of fact, he'll be here in a minute.♪♫ not only were you successful in determining the who's who in the relationship, aside from the fact that you were able to ruin his/her ego, you are also headed towards the path of destroying a wonderful union... all because you wanted to focus the spotlight on you and forgot that there's another person.

lastly, when being selfish in a relationship, if you come across a major hurdle or obstacle in your relationship, you leave and forget about him/her. it's the one foremost step of every selfish person could do to mess up your "what-you-thought-to-be-neverending bond." let's say one of you has started a career and was on your way to becoming successful whilst the other was beginning to feel miserable because he/she felt she was left out and his/her insecurities were slowly showing up, what do you do? leave him/her behind, find a better one to replace him/her and live your dream. doesn't matter if that person you left out has been with you for a very long time and right now, he/she might be needing your moral support all the more? if he/she doesn't fit in your perfect little world, scrap him/her and find a better model.

keep in mind how an egocentric human being thinks. a self-centered individual thinks this way, "WHAT WOULD I GET FROM YOU AND HOW VALUABLE COULD YOU BE TO ME?" instead of thinking, "HOW CAN I BE OF HELP/SERVICE TO YOU?"

on that note, i leave you this question, of the two questions i gave on my previous statement, which one is yours?